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ABA Training Skills- How to improve eye contact in children with ASD

Every greeting is a challenge to parents of ASD children. While children may have perfect vision, they simply will not look at the person they are greeting. Without any reminder, they usually look around or look only for a split second. There are several ways parents tend to use to encourage eye contact, such as, blocking his view, constantly saying “look at me, look into my eyes, where are my eyes”, point to eyes with the children’s finger. These approaches are generally not very effective.

Adults sustain eye contact out of courtesy, as well as to send out information. We want to know whether we are sharing the same feeling, if people are paying attention to us, or the same things as we are. Children with ASD have difficulties comprehending non- verbal communications, and take no notice of the thoughts and feelings of others. Objects that they are interested in, like posters on the wall or spinning fans etc., easily distract children. Children will be less motivated to look at you when there is so much distraction around them. In time, the child would equate eye contact with boredom.


We must teach children the purpose of eye contact to effectively improve their behavior. We should provide reinforcement when a child initiates eye contact to increase the frequency of desirable behavior. We could also try teaching through play to minimize avoidance behavior. It is essential to remove distractors in the beginning phases to promote attention.
  1. Exercise 1: Teach the child that “You can get what you want quicker when you check if people are paying attention on you.”
    While playing his favorite game (e.g. tickle, sing songs, etc.), pause when he is expecting you to continue. Verbally praise him (e.g. you’re looking at me! Let’s play!), and resume the game as a reinforcement when he initiates eye contact. Each segment should consist of at least 4 trials.
    Tip:In beginning stages, be at eye level with the child to promote success. Return to a natural height and gradually adjust our demand once he gets a grasp of it.
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  3. Exercise 2: Teach the child that “You can get what you want more effectively when you check if people are responding”
    Hold your child’s favorite snack or toy, with your back facing them. Turn around to face him once he taps on your shoulder or verbally request for it. If the child is looking at you, verbally praise him and reinforce the behavior with the desired snack/ toy. Let your child understand that good behavior (i.e. looking) will lead to positive consequences. If he fails to look within 3 seconds, indicate that he missed out on the reinforcement by returning to your original position.
    Tip:In beginning stages, be at eye level with the child to promote success, and return to a natural height once he gets a grasp of it. Adjust the speed we turn to face him to lengthen the duration he has to sustain his eye contact.
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  5. Exercise 3: Teach the child that “You can obtain information when you are following people’s gaze”
    Line 5 or more small cups in a row, at least 10cm apart, and turn them over. Place your child’s favorite snack in one of them. Tell him “your snack is here”, gaze at the designated cup and instruct your child to flip it over. If the child gets it right on his first attempt, it means that he is paying attention to your gaze and can consume the snack right away. If he fails, remove the snack, indicating that he missed out on it, and try again.
    Tip:In beginning phases, gaze at the cup for a longer period. When the child is getting fluent with the practice, increase difficulty by glancing at the target and reduce verbal instructions, so the child can be accustomed to follow people’s gaze on their own.

Info Provided by: Nicole Kwok (Autism Partnership Case Supervisor)
Autism Parntership Nicole Kwok Ms Nicole Kwok obtained a Master of Social Sciences in Counseling from City University of Hong Kong. She joined AP in 2006 as Program Specialist. She was responsible in leading social group and providing one-on-one service, shadowing for kindergarten/ international school and parent training. In 2011, she joined Aoi Pui School as Lead Teacher and helped the school to set up a brand new Cantonese-speaking class. She has experience in formulating IEP, overseeing intervention plan and designing lesson plan. In 2015, she joined back AP as Case Supervisor and is responsible for providing case supervision and parent training.

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